Does your environment bring you peace or stress? This week we’re talking about our environment. I’m sure we’re all well aware of the benefits of having a peaceful environment—less stress brings more calm and serenity. But how exactly do we go about creating a peaceful environment for ourselves and our families?
In this post, we’ll go over the steps to creating a more peaceful environment—physically and relationally.
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Steps to a More Peaceful Environment
1. Decide What’s Important to You
The first thing to do is decide what’s important to you. Think about the type of space you want to create. Do you want your home to remind you of cherished childhood memories and experiences? Do you like more of the minimalist look and feel? Clean straight lines, lots of white space? Do you enjoy more of a whimsical, Alice in Wonderland type of feel? Bold, bright colors?
We’re all different when it comes to what brings us peace and joy. I’m a total girly girl and you know I’m addicted to books, so my ideal living space has lots of pink, sparkles, and a ton of books!
2. Declutter & Get Rid of The Junk
Once you’ve decided what’s important to you and the look and feel you want to create in your environment, now it’s time to get rid of anything that doesn’t align with that desired environment.
What are you hoarding that you need to get rid of? Be honest, we all have something.
Is it that stack of 90’s chick flicks in the corner of your room collecting dust and cobwebs?
That pair of skinny jeans in your closet that hasn’t fit you in 3 years but you still hold onto it hoping someday you’ll be able to fit into them again? (In my case, it’s my strapless black and pink dress, not skinny jeans, but I still feel your pain.)
Getting rid of things you once loved (and maybe still do) is hard. But when you get rid of the things you no longer have a use for in your life, not only can it bring you more peace but you’re able to make room for more important stuff in your life. Click To Tweet
3. Clean and Organize
I’ll admit, I’m terrible at keeping my environment clean and organized. My desk is the #1 offender of this. Every time I clean and organize it, it lasts a couple of days (maybe a week if I’m lucky) before it looks like a tornado hit it again.
In fact, as I write this post, I’m surrounded by books, mail, and paper everywhere. But I am committing to having this cleaned by the end of the week.
When you’re able to keep your environment clean and organized, you lower your stress levels. There’s something about seeing a clean and tidy environment that brings a sense of peace.
For the moms out there shaking their heads saying, “You don’t get it. My kids make this impossible,” try implementing some type of reward system. If they clean and put away their toys after playing with them and keep the room clean, they get a special reward.
For more on how to simplify and organize your environment, check out The Simplified Life by Emily Ley.
1. Seek to Understand
If you want to create peace in your environment, not just your physical living space but in your relationships as well, then you need to seek to understand the other person.
What do I mean by this?
I was reminded this weekend at church about an interesting statistic. Want to guess what 90% of our thoughts are about? Yep, ourselves. We’re a pretty self-centered race.
Maybe it has to do with our survival instinct, but whatever the case, we tend to think about ourselves way more than anyone else, that includes our spouse and kids.
We need to think about others more. Seek to understand their perspective and what they’re going through. This will allow you to have more compassion for others and work through conflicts with grace.
2. Work on Conflict Resolution Skills
This is an area we can all stand to be better at. Learning how to solve conflicts with others can dramatically lower your stress.
Be aware of your tendencies and combat them. For example, if you know you tend to be passive-aggressive in conflicts work on ways to work through that, so you’re not taking it out on the other person.
Most people don’t like conflict, and some will avoid it at all costs, but the more you work on these skills, the better your relationships will be.
3. Learn to Compromise
Realize that relationships are not like Burger King; you can’t always have it your way. There has to be some give and take.
But, let me make this clear when I say compromise I do not mean for you to compromise your values. Know what your values are, be clear about them, and don’t compromise them.
But as far as whether you guys should get Chipotle or Panda Express for dinner (Chipotle obviously), be flexible and willing to compromise. Dinner options should never be something that puts a strain on your relationship.
I use dinner as a simple example, but you can replace this with any argument.
So there you have it, the steps to creating a more peaceful environment—physically and relationally.
- Decide what’s important
- Declutter and get rid of junk
- Clean and organize
- Seek to understand
- Conflict resolution skills
- Learn to compromise
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And if you haven’t done so already, be sure to check out Emily Ley’s book The Simplified Life.